What funny man Kyle Cease taught me about going after my goals.
What a wonderful time to be alive. Well maybe not, what with the Coronavirus and the stock market crash and the fear and all that … ouch this really hasn’t been a great time to be alive.
No, no, no, I’m sticking to my original assessment. All this Corona crisis will blow over. It sucks now, but give it time. No, the great time I’m referring to is the time of amazing technological miracles and the magnificence of diffused knowledge. With a few quick clicks of my mouse I can learn all the great ideas of the world. And with the quick change in focus, I can go from the nightmare unfolding all around to learning how to be positive and keep chasing after success.
And this great change in focus, for today, came in the form of former comedian Kyle Cease.
Never heard of him?
No, neither have I. Oh, sorry, maybe you did hear about him. But I’d never heard of him.
I was simply watching one of my success influencer channels, Impact Theory, getting my dose of positive learning and trying to tune out all the madness of the COVID, Coronavirus, horror story that has me sick to the eyeballs — watching my investments plummet, my classes disappear into some online blackhole … oops I digress.
Well, this Mr. Cease gave me some real great lessons of how to let go of all that and chase the positive vibe all the way to a life of success.
SO, let’s go on a wonderful journey:
This all Sucks — And I love that.
This is the first lesson I got. And it’s a great one.
“And I love that!”
Our friend Mr. Cease told me about this cool little trick he uses to stay positive. And it’s just that, whatever is getting him down, he says it and adds, ‘and I love that’.
The Coronavirus has ruined my investment portfolio, and I love that.
Sound ridiculous the first time you say it. But it forces you to see the silver lining.
My investments fell through the floor, but I love that — I love that now I’m down, the only way is up. I guess that’s true. And I love that now they’re down, the money’s gone up in smoke, I can see I’m still standing, and it’s only money. So I guess yeah I love that I have that new power over money. And I love that my training has kicked in; I know the money isn’t actually gone, the market will come back. And I do love that I have taken the time to learn that knowledge -it sets me apart from others.
And so, whatever sucks in your life — I dare you to love that. See if you can turn it into a silver lining.
Intention not goal
The second thing he taught me, is we should aim for intention and not goals.
This one I didn’t like at first — it goes against all my training so far. But as I let it sit, I realized where he was coming from.
If you have a goal, it’s often something out there that you are fighting towards and until you have it you will always feel like you’re lacking. And then when you get it, it’s like great, I win, now what? But if you aim for intention, you have a chance of winning.
The goal, I want a million fans and to live off my writing one day. Well, with that goal I wake up everyday going, ‘Oh my God, I’m never getting there’.
But if my intention is to write everyday like a man who has a million fans and lives off his writing, well I’m doing that right now. Feels ok:)
Feels ok right now, not amazing, but ok. And it does feel much better than that feeling of missing my goals everyday.
All emotions are temporary
The third kind of cool little tidbit that Mr. Cease reminded me of, is that emotions are temporary. We make a big deal out of them, but if we can see them as temporary, then we can minimize them, and we can take a lot of power back.
You get embarrassed asking out the hot girl. But you do it and you realise the embarrassment passes soon enough and it wasn’t that bad and you can do it again and again until you success. Or at least get better at it.
Or, you have really bad stage fright. But you try, and you realise after you feel it for a bit, and you struggle through, you start to get over it and one day you can handle it.
You suck in a performance and people laugh at you.
You lose the fight.
Your article tanks out.
Your grandmother dies.
Ok, that last one’s going to sting. But in all truth, and having experienced the loss of a father, once you go through the emotion you realize it’s only temporary and going through it makes you stronger.
So aim to be strong and go through some experiences. (But please don’t take that as license to go after any unloved family members.)
One more Lesson from the Funny Man
This one I liked, maybe because I’ve become a bit of a hard-hearted bastard, but hey…
Mr. Cease says, if you have to justify things to yourself, they need to go. If you have to make an argument for them, then that’s the sign that they’re not right. Things like the job, relationship … whatever, if you don’t absolutely know it’s right, let it go. And the more scary that feeling of letting go, the greater the potential growth or benefit.
I absolutely agree.
If you have to justify, and make arguments, for why you are with someone, then it’s not right, you shouldn’t be up all night debating whether to accept the proposal. You know it’s not perfect — move on.
Same with the job, the car, the jewels, well whatever decision. You know it’s right and you do it. If you have to justify, then walk away — it saves so much time.
Last lesson from the Funny Man
When you have an inspired feeling about something, it is a preview to the life you want and you can have. Mr. Cease argues we should follow this. Even if you’re not confident, you should think, “I might screw this up but awesome”. But awesome, I’ll learn something new, or I’ll have a new experience, or I’ll have a chance encounter, or I’ll stuff it all up and come out stronger for surviving. Whatever it is.
Now, most of us don’t do this. No, we go with societies ‘should’ voice. “You should get the safe job’, ‘you should buy the house’, ‘you should play it safe’ … You know, the normal.
I totally agree with Mr. Cease.
I should have stayed in Perth and done it smart — but now I’m in Saigon, married, investing my money, with a son, and living better than I ever have. If I did what I should, I never would have the life of my dreams … and so on.
Simple lessons from a funny man I’d never heard of. To here more, from the horses mouth, click the link above to Impact Theory and watch the whole interview.
To sum up this quick lessons, take what you hate and absolutely love that, go for your intentions not for goals, know that all emotions are temporary, and stop justifying your life.
Take this moment, know you are enough, stay positive, get strong, and create your story the way you want and the way it’s meant to be.
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