or How to Achieve Great Success with Tony Robbins 4 S’s for Success.
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The first step to achieving great success in your life is to begin to learn about success. If you take up this mission and learn great ‘success lessons’ there is absolutely no reason why you can’t achieve everything you want.
And who better to give us lessons about success than Tony Robbins.
What actually is Success?
As I start this post, I realize that I have never really defined success.
I guess I should have a whole post outlining what success is. However, I feel success is different for everyone.
Success is simply achieving those things that will bring fulfillment to you and your life.
It will be different for everyone, but once you achieve fulfillment in your life, you will feel truly successful.
This definition of success I got from a truly inspirational mentor: Tony Robbins. Today I will cover the 4 success lessons that he taught me that really made a huge difference in my mission for success.
I like to call them Tony’s 4 S’s to success:
- Story – Our results are directly linked the story we tell ourselves.
- State – Our results are determined by our emotional, physical and mental state.
- Strategy – A strategy based on success can save us years.
- Standards – We get the results we must have, not the results we want or should have.
Learn these lessons and get on the fast track to success.
4 Success Lessons from a Millionaire Mentor
1. Story for Success
We are the story we tell ourselves.
We all have an inner story that dictates the way we live our lives. For some of us we have empowering stories that guide us on toward success. While others have stories that keep them from ever being happy.
Whatever your story, it will determine your life. As Tony points out, our strongest drive is to stay true to our own image of ourselves. Even if it’s not good for us:
“We will act consistently with our view of who we truly are, whether that view is accurate or not.” Tony Robbins
My story and success lessons
From – “I’M FAT!”
For example, I used to be a fat man. The story I used to tell myself was that I had big bones and I had a low metabolism. This was really just an excuse for me eating too much. But the story was that I was fat. I was always fat and would always be fat, because of my bones and metabolism. My story shaped my reality.
However, one day I realized that the story didn’t seem to help the feelings of self loathing too much. I started to really hate feeling that way, so I began to change my story.
These stories were a waste of time. They were an excuse. It was these stories that perpetuated my continued over eating, lack of exercise and maintenance of weight.
To – “I AM A WARRIOR”
When I started to lose weight was when I finally got angry. I threw the story away. My new story was that I could lose weight – I just needed to get the will power and do what works.
It wasn’t complicated.
Eat less and exercise more. I told myself every day I was going to win. Eventually, the story I chanted as I worked out in the gym was, “I am a warrior, I am strong and hard and determined to look and feel the way I want”.
I changed my story and I lost about 40 Kilograms.
Success Lesson Learned
After this my other stories started to change as well.
I had had a huge victory and my old stories, the ones that held me back from having a great job, a relationship, a future, and general success, started to get changed as well.
My story was now that, “I can do anything I put my mind too. I’m better off trying than not doing anything. I am worthy of the best.”
When my story was, “no one wants to hear what I have to say”, then obviously I was a social outcast with nothing to say. (Except to my truly awesome friends who miraculously saw the good I’d been hiding.)
However, when my story was “I am a nice guy and everyone would be happy to know me”, I was full of energy. I bounced into work and confidently chatted to everyone who walked through the door. I was even driven to get a little adventurous and try my luck at making friends. And guess what, it turned out I was a nice guy that most people were happy to know.
The first step to achieving success is to change your story.
2. State for Success
The second of the success lessons is that state is essential to achieving success.
You can’t be a successful person if you spend most of your days in a loser state.
You can’t be a millionaire if you spend all your thoughts on a state of poverty.
If you want success you need to be in a successful state. You also need to maintain that state, day in, day out.
I really found this to be true with work. Every day I went to work, as a teacher, tense preparing for the students to misbehave. I continually complained that the students weren’t interested or inspired. I felt trapped in the job and I looked for all the things to complain about that I could.
This actually just felt natural to me.
However, when I started to monitor my state, I started to realize that I was starting my days in a state of pessimism and low expectation. Was it any wonder that my days ended up being unfulfilling and all the things I complained about kept reappearing?
Once I started changing my routines and trying to live in a state of optimism and gratitude everything changed. Instead of asking why this was the way it was? I started asking, how do I make it the way I want?
I started telling myself that the job was easy. The kids want me to inspire them. It’s my job to get them motivated and to force them to work. And so on.
Then I started to see progress. I started to focus on the kids that wanted to improve. More kids saw that I was interested and driven and they wanted to get involved. I had more energy and the classes were more interesting and I got more done.
Obviously some students didn’t get involved. But I didn’t make them the focus. I just forced them along. I was empowered to say, do the work or you get the detention. Instead of complaining and moaning, I took the power back and I drove them and classes were fun and full of good energy.
Success Lessons Learned
If you want success you need to stay in a successful state.
It’s better to ask, ‘why is this happening for me?’, than ‘why is this happening to me?’.
Special note: You need to work at it. What Tony calls priming.
Every night my wife and I force ourselves to remember to live in an attitude of gratitude.
Every afternoon I workout to stay fit, strong and energetic.
Even still, some days it feels overwhelming to continually bring you’re ‘A’ game. But now, instead of giving in and giving myself a ‘break’, I stand up, take a deep breath, count to five, take a few big steps and remind myself that if I want a successful day, I need to put in the energy and bring the right attitude.
If you want success, know how to feel successful and stay in the right state.
3. Strategy for Success
Strategy is obviously important. It’s like Tony says, if you do the right thing at the wrong time you don’t get pleasure, you get pain. And if you go running West looking for a sunrise, you’re never going to see one, no matter how hard you try. (Tony Robbins on YouTube)
A strategy is the mechanics that will take you from where you are now to where you want to be.
But a strategy is only 20% of the equation. First you need to get the psychology right. Once you have the story and you have got the right state, then you can apply the strategy to achieve success.
Essentially strategy is simple. Most things in life are simple, they aren’t usually easy, but they are simple.
The cost of having a poor strategy
When my wife and I started investing, we had a strategy. We had no idea what we were doing, but we thought it through and thought we had a good plan.
At the start, we did the right thing at the right time, and we had immediate success. It felt awesome! But then, we didn’t know how to read the market and we kept doing the same thing, but this time it was the wrong time. The market plunged.
At the time, we had a weak psychology. We reacted the way most people would. With fear and by selling. As a result we lost a decent chunk of what we had. We later came to learn that this was the wrong strategy, but at that time strategy didn’t matter. That decision was all about state. We were a rabbit in the headlights and we didn’t even think fight or flight, we just flew.
However, living in our attitude of gratitude, and getting our daily lessons from people like Tony, we were buoyed to continue. The next time around we had grown a lot tougher mentally. We were determined to fight on, knowing the advantage of investing. But this time, fully aware of the disadvantage, we knew we had to learn more strategies to protect ourselves.
The Advantages of a Success Strategy
So, following the advice of Tony, we went straight to the best in the business and sought the strategy.
First it was Warren Buffet, just watching on YouTube. He said, play long and pick good companies that you know won’t fail. I paraphrase, but that was the simple lesson we took away.
Then I read Unshakeable, by Tony Robbins, and we learned that corrections come and go. The only way you really make a loss is if you get shaken, sell quick and accept your lose. (You can read more on these lessons by reading, How to become a Success: become Unshakeable (Part 1).)
The New Strategy
So, armed with this strategy, we played long. We stuck to our favorite companies, the ones we knew were profitable and we knew would be around for the next 20 years.
Inevitably, we were hit again with a correction and we worried. However, with our new strength of psychology we held tight. We followed the strategy and we ended up riding it out. Over time, our stock values all came back and we even earned some dividends along the way.
The Success Lessons we Learned:
Start with the right psychology and learn from the real best in your field. Follow the winning formula and you will win. It’s not easy, but it’s really simple. Actually, the more we do it, it actually starts to feel easy and simple.
Winning psychology + Winning Strategy = Success
4. Standards for Success
You are your standards!
You are what you tolerate, what you accept, what you do on a regular basis.
If you want success, you must expect success!
You must tolerate nothing but success, accept nothing but success and do things every day and all day long that will bring you success.
Success must become a must! And you must become hungry for it and draw on all of your resources and resourcefulness to hunt it down and get it.
That’s as simple as it gets. You are your standards.
If your everyday standard is that you must make it to the gym, then you will be fit and healthy.
When I make it my absolutely must to save at least 50% of my income and invest it smartly, then I will be on the road to financial freedom and a life of abundance.
The day I make achieving financial freedom an absolute must and I do what it takes everyday, then barring unforeseen circumstances, I will be achieve it.
It’s not too complicated.
If I save and invest and work double time and hustle and reinvest and compound my money, then it’s an almost certainty that I will one day achieve financial freedom.
However, we are our standards and not our wants.
I might want financial freedom more than anything, but if my standard is to just work hard and save a hundred dollars a week and celebrate this as a great win, then I’ll never get there.
If I want financial freedom, it has to be a must. It must be my standard and I can’t settle for any less.
I found this with my fitness.
I absolutely refuse to ever be a fat man again. So anytime I get close to feeling my clothes feeling too tight, I’m back to double timing it in the gym.
I found this with all my hustles.
It is my standard to stay fit, to invest every month, to finish my novel, to continue my blog, and to be an awesome teacher and an awesome husband. And now an awesome father.
And sometimes I’ll admit, I don’t have any idea how I will find the time to do everything. But somehow I do. When it’s a must, you find the time. You get better, quicker and more flexible.
The Success Lessons Learned:
If you want it, you need to make it your standard. It has to be an absolute must. And anything is possible.
When I started the path to success, Tony was a great shining light. And I owe him a huge debt of gratitude for making things simple for me to understand.
I started out with big goals and everyday I reaffirm these goals and I know I’m getting closer and closer and closer.
This is possible because I understand the 4 S’s of success.
I encourage you to get to know Tony, watch his clips on YouTube, his documentary and get his books. His lessons can change your life for the better. I recommend you apply them in your own life and remember to never stop striving for success.
The mission is to achieve success. To take myself, my family and our life to our full capacity, whatever that may be. We’ve decided to get a bit more swag in our step and go for a higher level than we have right now. And then keep going until we can’t progress anymore.
If that’s something you want for your life, feel free to come join the mission for success by clicking here: Mission for Success!
All the best, and remember to keep striving for success.