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What follows are the direct lessons I learned from Tony Robbins’ book Unshakeable. It is full of invaluable lessons on how to achieve real wealth. I highly recommend you get yourself a copy. It’s totally worth the investments. Get Unshakeable here.
In Part 1, we looked at how to become unshakeable, in both life and investing. The secret, is to know the facts. If you know the facts and the potential problems, then you can prepare. By being psychologically, physically, mentally and financially prepared, you can face any problem from a position of strength.
In Part 2, we learnt that to be successful in life and investing, you must know the rules and the principles of the game. Our focus was on investing, but it’s the same for life. If you know the core principles of how to win, or you learn them by following successful people, and you apply them, then you will have a great chance of success.
In Part 3, we saw that to become truly unshakeable we need to face fear and avoid the common mistakes that are natural for us to make. Again, by being prepared for fear and being aware of these common mistakes, we can be ready to overcome and start winning.
In Part 4, we put it all together to look at what winning really means. It’s time to get real wealth, by dedicating to a life of fulfilment and to becoming unshakeable in our pursuit of success.
1. The Secret to Real Wealth
When it comes to real wealth most people don’t know how to play the game. If you know the plays and use them to defend yourself and develop an unshakeable foundation then you can win.
From my own life, before I knew how to achieve success, I felt powerless and that led me to follow everyone else, to avoid fear and to accept the life I was given. But then I learned that there is a path to success.
I started learning the plays that will help me to achieve financial success. I’m learning the game: tune out the hypnosis, get a purpose, save like crazy, invest, build your own business and get free. This is all the mechanics.
(Read more in, How to Achieve Financial Freedom Through Investing)
However, there is a Downside
I have to admit there is a downside. While I’ve been locked into learning all the mechanics, I started to feel stressed. I was racing to learn it all and feeling frustrated that I still haven’t achieved it all.
I felt the big catch.
The catch is, that if you need wealth to make yourself fulfilled, then you will never truly have it. You will be continually chasing to catch others, always hiking the stakes up and feeling like you’re short of what you can have.
True wealth doesn’t come from the trappings of success. Striving for money and luxury is fine. There’s nothing wrong with that. But to live successfully, you need to find happiness and gratitude.
There are plenty of stories of extremely rich and famous people who were so miserable that they fell apart and committed suicide. Tony often sites the example of Robin Williams. A man who had it all, who was considered a national treasure. And for all that success, he wasn’t fulfilled. He wasn’t truly wealthy.
Freedom, happiness and success are more than money and accolades.
As Tony states: “Real wealth is emotional, psychological, and spiritual.”(Robbins, P.163)
The secret Tony taught me, was that you need to learn to live in gratitude. When you are grateful, you can so easily find happiness, joy and abundance. And when you’re actively looking to be grateful, then you can easily forget all the stress and the frustration and the negative feelings that form with them. Anger, hatred, ‘poor me’ and all that, go away when you go to bed and wake up with ‘I’m so grateful for my life’.
Or, in Tony’s words: “Every day, think as you wake up, “Today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it.””(Robbins P.162)
I won’t lie, it feels fake at the beginning. But it doesn’t take long to take hold. I was only doing it for a couple of months and it literally helped me to power through my latest great challenge. (See more below.)
Long story short, true wealth comes from living life in a good emotional state.
2. True Wealth has a formula
The second great insight I gleamed from Unshakeable, was that there is a science to achievements.
Whatever you want is achievable if you follow these steps.
If you want money, then focus on it. Learn how it works. Learn how to make it. And make it your goal. Keep going after it and you will get it. It’s the same for love, success, confidence and so on. If you want something, you must first focus on it.
2) Know why you want it.
Focusing on what you want isn’t enough. You need to go after it. But if you don’t have a really great reason for why you need it, then you will probably not have the desire and the consistency to see it through. You need to really know why it’s important to you. When you have a reason, a real ‘why’, that will get you to chase that thing, rain, hail, or shine, no matter how you feel, then you can achieve anything.
3) Massive Action
You need to go beyond wanting. Just wanting won’t make it happen. You need to take action. And the more action the greater potential success you will have in you project. Tony is fond of saying, “massive action is the cure all” (YouTube)
Finally, we can do all we want, but in the end we need a little grace. Whatever you want to call it, luck, divine intervention, that little bit of fortune that makes it happen. That seems to take a bit of agency away from us, but as many have noted before, those who prepare for luck tend to be a lot luckier than those who just wait for it. So by doing the first three you prepare yourself for the opportunity that will come along.
This is the formula for success.
So far I’m working it and we’ll see how it goes.
For now my hardest challenge is taking massive action. But I’m obviously taking action – I mean, if you told me two years ago I’d have my own blog, I’d think you were crazy. I barely knew what a blog really was. But here we are.
At the moment, I have faith that I’m on the right path to have a chance to achieve success. Let’s see how it all turns out.
3. We know what achieves fulfilment
As we said at the beginning, true wealth is about living happy. To be happy means we have found fulfilment. This will mean something different to everyone, but at the end of the day achieving fulfilment is the key for everyone to achieve real success.
In order to achieve fulfilment we must do the following:
1) We must keep growing.
This is how we become more and how we become satisfied with ourselves. Without this, nothing will fill that void of longing.
I’ve lived the free lifestyle. I didn’t have all the money in the world, but I was safe enough to not have to work and to do pretty much whatever I wanted all day long. And quite frankly it was boring. Now, I face busy days of work, quite often doing things I’d rather not have to do. But I feel empowered and I feel happy. I have a purpose, a goal, and I am on my way to becoming the kind of man that I want to be. That makes me feel empowered and proud. This is the key to feeling wealthy.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m still looking for a way to be free from having to work. And I know that with money and time I will feel a lot more successful. However, the difference is now I have a purpose that will make that money and time work to help me achieve fulfilment. I have a vision of using money to better myself and my family and help others.
Before I wanted freedom to be lazy. No matter how much money I would have had, I know I would have thrown it away looking to fill a void that I now know can only be filled by purpose.
Now I have my purpose, I’m working harder than ever, facing more responsibilities than ever, and feeling great.
2) You have to give.
I just recently finished reading A Christmas Carol, by Charles Dickens. This is perhaps a story we all know. If not, it’s at least a message we all know.
Scrooge, the main character, is super rich. He has the power of life or death over the people who work for him. Scrooge has so much wealth he can do anything, even ignore family and people who annoy him with their stupid sentimental ideas of love and charity. By most people’s definition, he has achieved great success.
Then one night he is visited by apparitions that show him his life. First he sees the past and how he had love but he gave it up to chase wealth. We can also infer that he gave up on love because he was afraid of being hurt. That fear leads him to becoming old, cold and empty.
Next, we see apparitions of the present. We see the poor people around Scrooge, joyfully enjoying what little they have, and far from jealous of Scrooge, they mock him and ultimately feel sorry for him. For with all his mountains of wealth, he does nothing with it and has no one to share life with. He is alone.
In the final apparition, we see Scrooge dead and see that after his life of great ‘success’, he has no one to morn him. No one cares. We also see that the people he could have helped have suffered and we know what a waste it was. Scrooge sees that he can do a great deal for others and in doing so, he does a great deal for himself.
In the end Scrooge is transformed and we see the absolute joy he has in saving the life of poor Tiny Tim, his clerk’s crippled son, and sharing his fortune and life with his lovely and generous nephew.
He gives his fortune and time to others and in return he gets happiness. He sings and dances like a happy fool. This is true wealth. This is obviously a story, but I think we can accept that the message is one based on real life circumstances. What’s the point of having mountains of wealth and all the free time in the world if you have nothing to enjoy.
More to Giving
There’s a lot to add here and I will expand on these in the future, because these are areas I need to focus on to get me in a peak stake.
It boils down to the fact that happiness and wealth comes from living healthy, living in gratitude, feeding the mind positively and living in states of joy, passion and creativity.
For now, know that you can choose to feel wealthy right now. So choose to be happy. Be ready for the monsters that will try to undo your happiness and train your reactions. Take the power to choose wealth and happiness.
I have to say, this series on becoming Unshakeable came along at the perfect time for me.
Only just recently I put my back out. Several years ago I herniated a disc in my lower back which caused my sciatic nerve to be compressed. This was very painful and took a long time to work out. Well, I put it out again, and this time it felt even worse.
This time it really struck me down. I was reduced to a crippled mess; struggling to stand up and worrying whether I’d be permanently disabled.
I’m not going to lie to you – I wasn’t completely unshakeable. It took a few days of rest and starting to feel like I would heal to turn it around. To be truly honest, in the beginning, I was worried, I felt bad for myself and I got upset.
But even at the worst I felt my training kick in. Even as I lay there worrying whether I could get up and work again, I thought, ‘well if I can’t walk, then maybe I’ll be forced to become a good writer.’ Thankfully, things turned around. I was still worried though, and these lessons enabled me to face the problem.
Ask the right questions:
The first lesson was to ask the right questions. The old me would have asked ‘why did this happen to me?’ The new me asked, ‘why did this happen for me?’ As a result I learned some valuable lessons and now I’m taking better care of my body and not burning myself out, as I was doing before.
Know the game:
The old me would have freaked out and got depressed, or tried to eat and drink away my woe. The new me knew that knowledge is power. I looked for what was wrong and tackled it intelligently by looking for models and getting help. I got help and I got assistance from others and used the knowledge to logically face the problem and deal with it.
Find What’s Right:
The old me would have got miserable and blamed everyone and everything for my problems. The new me looked on the bright side and realised just how fortunate I am.
I found gratitude for my wife who struggled to help me get better. Together, we were grateful for our financial position, which allowed me to get help, regardless of the cost. I realised many people don’t have that luxury.
All this, combined with the time to think during my injury, lead me to revaluate my whole mission to success.
As I stated earlier, I was beginning to feel stressed as my whole mission for success was measured by financial outcomes and things I wanted. After this event, I realized how to be wealthy now. My goal is still to achieve financial wealth, but right now it’s to live healthy and to live in a peak state. This is something I can feel day to day. And finally, my main goal is to live happy and I can achieve that by being grateful every day for the good things I have.
It wasn’t immediate. I’m still a bit shaky. But through studying Unshakeable, I was able to face this moment of real anxiety, pain and uncertainty, deal with it and then get back on my path to success.
Look out soon for my next study on how to live in a peak state.
Thanks again to Tony – seriously get out and read his books and listen to him. I really have only just scratched the surface here. His teachings have completely changed my life for the better.
Finally, I truly believe these insights are helping me to become a greater person and helping me to find true wealth for me and my family.
I hope they are helping you too. I believe life is better when we wake up looking to have a successful day and we dream of having a successful life.
So thanks again, and always remember to keep striving for success.
If you enjoyed this, please read more in, Unshakeable Part 3 – Overcome Fear and Avoid Mistakes.